Episodes

  • 207. Why You Keep Trying to Change, and It Keeps Not Working

    207. Why You Keep Trying to Change, and It Keeps Not Working
    Jul 7 2026
    In this episode, I'm talking about why so many attempts to change your relationship with food seem to fizzle out, even when you're motivated and genuinely want things to be different. Because constantly starting over doesn't mean you're lazy, uncommitted, or missing some magical piece of information. We're digging into the deeper reasons certain behaviors stick around, what they may actually be doing for you, and why curiosity is often far more helpful than criticism. This conversation goes beyond meal plans and motivation and gets into the questions that most people never think to ask. Quotes "We don't lead with the question, what do we do about this? We lead with the question, what is this actually all about? It's the question that changes everything when someone is really willing to look at it, because the answer is usually not what you think it is." "Most of us are so focused on fixing the behavior that we haven't stopped to ask what the behavior is doing." "The reason change feels so hard isn't because you're weak; it's because something would have to be given up if you changed. Meaning, if the behavior is protective in some way, shape, or form, it's providing something for you." "You don't need to know the answer yet. The key is starting to think about this and removing the blame that we're pointing at ourselves and starting to ask questions." "Sometimes this isn't something that you can do alone, and that's where you might need a real person like a therapist or a dietician. Sometimes we need people who can see the patterns that we're too close to see." Frequently Asked Questions Why do I keep failing when I try to change my eating habits? Repeatedly struggling with food does not necessarily mean you lack motivation or discipline. Many behaviors serve a purpose, and understanding what they are providing can help create lasting change. Why do I sabotage myself around food? What feels like self-sabotage is often a protective pattern. Behaviors around food may be helping you cope with emotions, stress, shame, or fear, even when those behaviors are no longer serving you well. Why is giving up dieting so scary? For many people, dieting feels tied to safety, control, belonging, or fear of weight gain. Letting go of those rules can bring up emotions and beliefs that deserve attention and support. What does fear of weight gain really mean? Fear of weight gain often goes beyond the number on the scale. It can be connected to shame, past experiences, fears of rejection, or beliefs about worth and acceptance. Why do I feel stuck between wanting recovery and wanting to stay the same? Feeling pulled in two directions is called ambivalence, and it is a normal part of recovery. Having conflicting feelings does not mean you're doing anything wrong. Does structured eating help with disordered eating? Structured eating provides consistency and helps create a foundation for healing. Many people benefit from eating regularly throughout the day rather than relying on hunger cues alone in the early stages of recovery. Do I need a therapist or a dietitian for eating disorder recovery? Support can be helpful when you're too close to your own patterns to see them clearly. A therapist or dietitian can help you understand what is driving your behaviors and provide practical tools for recovery. Resources Be sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter! Brave on Purpose! - Grab my new book here! Grab my Journal Prompts Here! Looking for a speaker for an upcoming event? Let's chat! Now accepting new clients! Find out if we're a good fit! Episodes Mentioned: -Episode 45. Basics of Intuitive Eating -Episode 122. Ozempic, Wegovy, & Mounjaro with Laura Cipullo -Episode 133. GLP with Dr. Kim Dennis -Episode 160. Intuitive Eating Updates You Need to Know with Elyse Resch MS, RDN, CEDS-C, Fiaedp, FADA, FAND LEAVE A REVIEW + help someone who may need this podcast by sharing this episode. Be sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter here! You can connect with me on Instagram @rachelleheinemann, through my website www.rachelleheinemann.com, or email me directly at rachelle@rachelleheinemann.com
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    14 mins
  • 206. What Am I Actually Hungry For?

    206. What Am I Actually Hungry For?
    Jun 30 2026
    In this episode, I'm talking about a question that sounds simple but can feel surprisingly hard to answer: What are you actually hungry for? Not in the physical sense, but underneath all of the eating, the urges, the restlessness, and the feeling that something is missing. We're exploring why so many of us learned to disconnect from our wants and needs, how food became the safest and most reliable answer, and why recovery sometimes starts with a question instead of a solution. If you've ever felt like there's something deeper going on but you can't quite name it, this conversation is for you. Grab your coffee, head out on your walk, or hide in your car for a few uninterrupted minutes. Then press play and listen to the full episode. Quotes "When everything else feels kind of murky and vague or far away or impossible to ask for, food is literally right there." "The thing about suppressing any kind of hunger, whether it's literal or metaphoric, is that it doesn't disappear." "You're not eating because you want food, you're eating because you're hungry." "The food happens to be the only thing that you're allowed to answer this particular question of what am I hungry for without negotiating, justifying, or making yourself smaller." "Giving yourself the capacity to have the question and let the question hang out for a little bit is in and of itself what we're talking about." "I think the question of 'What are you hungry for?' is probably the hardest question in this entire work of eating disorder recovery. Mostly because we've spent so long making sure we didn't have to ask it. You do not need the answer yet. You just need to start wondering." Frequently Asked Questions Why do I eat when I'm not hungry? Many people eat for reasons that have nothing to do with physical hunger. Stress, loneliness, exhaustion, boredom, and unmet emotional needs can all contribute to eating when your body does not need food. Emotional eating is often a signal that something deeper is asking for attention. What is emotional hunger? Emotional hunger refers to the desire for comfort, connection, relief, or distraction rather than physical nourishment. Emotional hunger can feel urgent and is often linked to feelings, stress, or unmet needs. Why do I binge eat at night? Nighttime binge eating is common because many people finally slow down at the end of the day. Emotions, stress, loneliness, exhaustion, or restriction that were pushed aside throughout the day often become harder to ignore in the evening. Can emotional eating be a sign of unmet needs? Yes. Emotional eating can sometimes reflect deeper needs such as rest, connection, intimacy, support, purpose, or the desire to feel seen and understood. Food may become the most available way to cope when those needs go unrecognized. How do I know if I'm physically hungry or emotionally hungry? Physical hunger tends to come on gradually and is satisfied by eating. Emotional hunger often feels sudden, urgent, and may persist even after eating. Learning to pause and ask yourself what you are truly needing can help you distinguish between the two. Why do I struggle to know what I want? Many people have spent years prioritizing others, suppressing emotions, or disconnecting from their own needs. Relearning how to identify what you want and need is a skill that develops over time and is an important part of healing. Is emotional eating normal? Yes. Emotional eating is a common human experience. Everyone uses food for comfort at times. Problems arise when food becomes the primary way to cope with emotions or when eating patterns create distress and interfere with daily life. Resources Be sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter! Brave on Purpose! - Grab my new book here! Grab my Journal Prompts Here! Looking for a speaker for an upcoming event? Let's chat! Now accepting new clients! Find out if we're a good fit! Episodes Mentioned: -Episode 73. Food and Desire with Dr. Judith Brisman LEAVE A REVIEW + help someone who may need this podcast by sharing this episode. Be sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter here! You can connect with me on Instagram @rachelleheinemann, through my website www.rachelleheinemann.com, or email me directly at rachelle@rachelleheinemann.com
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    15 mins
  • 205. What Your Eating Disorder is Doing When You Can't Speak Up

    205. What Your Eating Disorder is Doing When You Can't Speak Up
    Jun 23 2026
    When feelings, needs, and wants don't have a place to go, they don't simply disappear. They often find another outlet. For many people, food becomes the place where hurt, anger, disappointment, stress, and resentment get expressed without ever being spoken out loud. In this episode, I'm exploring why disordered eating behaviors can feel so difficult to let go of and why they often provide very real relief in the moment. We'll talk about the emotional and relational layers underneath bingeing, restricting, and food obsession, and why recovery isn't only about changing eating behaviors. Sometimes the missing piece is learning to recognize what's happening emotionally before food enters the picture. If you've ever felt confused by your eating patterns or wondered why you're still struggling despite doing all the "right" things, this episode offers a different lens for understanding what's going on and why food may not be the whole story. Quotes "You didn't decide to stop speaking up for yourself; you adapted, and adaptation is smart." "It's survival. It's resourceful." "When you can't say, 'I'm angry,' that anger does not disappear. When you can't say, 'I'm hurt,' or, 'I need something,' or, 'I want something,' those feelings do not evaporate." "Every single time you route a feeling through food instead of through language, meaning through words, through relationships, through actually telling someone what happened, the original feeling never gets named, it never gets heard, and the need never gets met." "You're trying to answer a question with the wrong answer. The question wasn't about food, and the answer wasn't about food." "Real recovery involves slowly building the capacity to feel something and stay with it long enough to know what it actually is." "The eating disorder isn't necessarily a food problem, or it's really not only a food problem that occasionally gets emotional. It's an emotional and relational problem that found food as its home." Frequently Asked Questions Why do I binge eat after stressful conversations? Many people notice that binge eating happens after conflict, criticism, disappointment, or situations where they suppress their feelings. When emotions aren't acknowledged or expressed, food can become a way to cope with the discomfort. The binge often isn't random. It's frequently connected to something that happened earlier in the day. Can an eating disorder be caused by emotional suppression? Emotional suppression isn't the only cause of an eating disorder, but it can be a significant contributing factor. When someone consistently avoids expressing needs, wants, anger, hurt, or disappointment, eating disorder behaviors may develop as a way to manage or communicate those emotions. Why does restricting food make me want to binge? Restriction is one of the most common drivers of binge eating. When your body isn't getting enough food, it naturally increases the urge to eat. Many people assume their binge eating is purely emotional when physical deprivation is also playing a major role. Is emotional eating the same as binge eating? No. Emotional eating involves using food to cope with emotions, while binge eating typically involves eating a large amount of food with a sense of loss of control. The two can overlap, but they are not the same thing. Why do I struggle to identify my emotions? Many people learn early in life to focus on other people's needs while ignoring their own. Over time, this can make it difficult to recognize emotions, needs, preferences, and boundaries. Learning to identify feelings is often an important part of recovery. Can improving boundaries help with disordered eating? For some people, yes. Difficulties with boundaries, people pleasing, and self-advocacy can contribute to emotional stress that later shows up through food behaviors. While boundaries alone won't resolve an eating disorder, they can be an important part of the healing process. How do I know if my eating habits are connected to my emotions? Start by paying attention to patterns. Notice what happens before urges to binge, restrict, overeat, or obsess about food. Many people discover that certain conversations, situations, or emotional experiences consistently show up before food becomes more difficult to manage. Awareness is often the first step toward understanding what's driving the behavior. Resources Be sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter! Brave on Purpose! - Grab my new book here! Grab my Journal Prompts Here! Looking for a speaker for an upcoming event? Let's chat! Now accepting new clients! Find out if we're a good fit! Episodes Mentioned: -Episode 198. People Pleasing and Eating Disorders -Episode 200. 3 Capacities That Matter More Than Motivation in Eating Disorder Recovery LEAVE A REVIEW + help someone who may need this podcast by sharing this episode. Be sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter here! You can connect with me on Instagram @rachelleheinemann, ...
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    12 mins
  • 204. Why controlling food feels safer than controlling your life

    204. Why controlling food feels safer than controlling your life
    Jun 16 2026

    This episode is all about that feeling and why it can become so emotionally powerful.

    We're digging into the connection between food control and everything happening underneath the surface that often has nothing to do with food at all. Anxiety. Uncertainty. Stress. Feeling emotionally stuck. Feeling like there are things you can't say, can't ask for, or can't fully admit to yourself. Sometimes controlling food becomes the place all of that energy goes because it feels concrete, manageable, and safe.

    Quotes

    "Control is more of a solution than it is a problem. It's not a character flaw. It is a coping mechanism."

    "When we have something to improve, to manage, to optimize, whatever it is, it creates a sense of moving forward. And it's not about being vain. It's about feeling like I'm actually doing something when otherwise I do not have that feeling."

    "When we treat a symptom as a problem or the control as a problem, then we kind of miss the point. The food control is holding everything together, or at least something together."

    "If it's the structure that's keeping everything from falling apart, then asking us to drop it without addressing what's carrying it kind of feels destabilizing because it is destabilizing."

    "The goal isn't to take away the control, it's to understand what it's doing. And eventually, to build other ways of feeling safe."

    "In a situation where it feels like you can't want something, you can't ask for something, you can't say it, there's always wiggle room to try to figure out how you can sort of move the needle ever so slightly, assert yourself ever so slightly, even if it isn't the bigger picture and not actually resolving things."

    Frequently Asked Questions

    Why do I feel more in control when I'm dieting or eating "clean"?

    For a lot of people, food rules create a sense of structure and relief when life feels emotionally messy, uncertain, or overwhelming. Controlling food can temporarily calm anxiety because it feels concrete and manageable.

    Is controlling food a sign of an eating disorder?

    Not always, but rigid food control can become part of disordered eating patterns. Many people use food behaviors to cope with stress, anxiety, helplessness, or emotions they don't fully know how to process.

    Why is it so hard to "just let go" of food control?

    Because food control is usually serving a purpose emotionally. If it's helping you feel safe, grounded, or organized internally, simply removing the behavior without addressing what's underneath can feel destabilizing.

    Can stress and anxiety make food rules worse?

    Yes. Stress, uncertainty, transitions, relationship issues, work pressure, and emotional overwhelm often increase the need for control around food. Many people notice their food rules tighten during difficult or unpredictable periods.

    Why do I obsess over food when other parts of my life feel chaotic?

    Food can become a way to redirect emotional energy. When situations feel too complicated, emotionally unsafe, or impossible to solve, focusing on food can create a temporary feeling of order and relief.

    Can you have disordered eating even if your life looks "fine"?

    Absolutely. Disordered eating isn't only linked to major trauma or obvious crises. Sometimes subtle stress, internal pressure, transitions, perfectionism, or difficulty expressing emotions can fuel the need for control around food.

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    15 mins
  • 203. What restriction actually is (it's not just skipping meals)

    203. What restriction actually is (it's not just skipping meals)
    Jun 9 2026
    In this episode, the conversation gets into the sneaky side of restriction. The kind that hides inside wellness culture, clean eating, safe choices, food guilt, and the constant running commentary in your head about what you should or should not eat. And honestly? A lot of it feels so normal that you do not even realize it's happening. There's also a really important conversation about why binge eating does not always come from physical deprivation alone. Psychological restriction matters too. Which is deeply annoying information for anyone who thought eating "enough calories" automatically meant they were healed. Quotes "Restriction lives in rules, not necessarily in the amounts." - Rachelle Heinemann "If there's a constant peanut gallery running on the commentary on whatever you eat, that's restriction." - Rachelle Heinemann "Your body is not necessarily distinguishing between not eating and not letting yourself eat freely." - Rachelle Heinemann "The fear itself is also part of the restrict-binge cycle." - Rachelle Heinemann "Restriction is anything that shrinks your relationship with food and with wanting it." - Rachelle Heinemann "You might have been living with this internally so long that it feels so normal. You might be living among people who are just immersed in wellness or diet culture for so long that it feels normal." - Rachelle Heinemann "The rigidity in your mind creates its own form of deprivation." - Rachelle Heinemann Frequently Asked Questions What counts as restriction if I'm technically eating enough? Restriction is not only about calories or portion sizes. Psychological restriction counts too. Food rules, labeling foods as "bad," mentally negotiating every meal, delaying food until you've "earned it," or constantly trying to control what you eat can all create a restrictive relationship with food. Can restriction cause binge eating? Yes. Restriction is one of the biggest drivers of binge eating. When your body and brain feel deprived, physically or psychologically, it can create intense urges around food that feel chaotic or out of control. Why do I binge even when I wasn't hungry? A binge does not always start from physical hunger. Mental restriction, food rules, stress around eating, and feelings of deprivation can all trigger binge eating, even if you recently ate. What is psychological restriction? Psychological restriction is the mental side of dieting and food control. It includes obsessing over food choices, feeling guilty after eating, constantly planning how to "make up" for food, or believing certain foods are off limits even if you occasionally allow yourself to eat them. Why do I feel obsessed with food all the time? Food obsession is often connected to restriction. When your brain perceives food scarcity, whether through dieting, food rules, or inconsistent eating, it increases focus on food as a survival response. Can food rules lead to binge eating? Yes. Strict food rules often increase feelings of deprivation, which can intensify cravings and lead to binge-restrict cycles. The more rigid the rules become, the more emotionally charged food tends to feel. Why does intuitive eating feel out of control for me? For many people recovering from dieting or disordered eating, jumping straight into intuitive eating without structure can feel overwhelming. Hunger cues and trust around food are often distorted after years of restriction. Consistent, structured eating usually helps rebuild stability first. What is the restrict-binge cycle? The restrict-binge cycle happens when restriction leads to deprivation, obsession with food, urges to binge, guilt afterward, and then renewed attempts to restrict again. The cycle repeats because the restriction itself is often fueling the binge behavior. How do I stop obsessing over food? Usually not through more control. Eating consistently, reducing food rules, allowing flexibility with food, and rebuilding trust with your body can help decrease obsessive thoughts about food over time. Why do I feel guilty after eating certain foods? Food guilt is often learned through dieting, wellness culture, and rigid beliefs about "good" and "bad" foods. When food becomes morally charged, eating certain foods can trigger shame, anxiety, or urges to compensate afterward. Can you recover from binge eating without dieting? Recovery from binge eating usually involves reducing restriction, not increasing it. Healing the relationship with food often requires moving away from rigid dieting behaviors and learning consistent nourishment and flexibility. What are subtle signs of disordered eating? Some subtle signs include constantly thinking about food, avoiding certain foods, anxiety around eating socially, mentally tracking calories or portions, needing to "earn" food, guilt after eating, and feeling out of control around foods you try to restrict. Why do I feel out of control around certain foods? Foods often become ...
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    11 mins
  • 202. The More You Try to Eat Less, The More You Eat

    202. The More You Try to Eat Less, The More You Eat
    Jun 2 2026
    In this episode of Understanding Disordered Eating, I'm digging into one of the most misunderstood parts of binge eating: why dieting and restriction so often lead directly to the exact thing you're trying to avoid. And no, it's not because you "lack willpower." That story has been recycled enough already. We're talking about the restriction cycle; the physical and psychological deprivation that quietly builds all day long until your body eventually says, "Absolutely not," and takes over. If you've ever felt confused about why evenings feel so chaotic around food, or why you can't seem to "just stay consistent," this episode might explain more than you expect. Quotes " I don't actually believe that you are 'bad' for eating something that is a little bit more indulgent. The labels just really increase our guilt and our regret for eating certain kinds of foods that we really have no business feeling regret." "When we engage in some sort of restriction, whether that's active dieting or just sort of like cutting things out, it creates deprivation." "This is not about willpower because ultimately the binge or the chaotic eating or the bingey eating or the just eating emotionally… is the correction. It is not the crime." "You're blaming yourself for the end of a story that started way, way earlier." "The question isn't 'Why can't I stop binging?' It's 'What is my body responding to?' And that shift is the whole thing." Frequently Asked Questions Why does dieting lead to binge eating? Dieting often creates physical and psychological deprivation. When your body feels restricted, whether from not eating enough, cutting out certain foods, or following strict food rules, it becomes more focused on food. Over time, that deprivation can trigger binge eating as the body tries to compensate. Is binge eating caused by a lack of willpower? No. Binge eating is not simply a willpower issue. In many cases, it's a biological and psychological response to restriction, deprivation, stress, or food rules. The episode explains how binge eating can actually be the body's correction to feeling deprived. What is the restriction cycle? The restriction cycle happens when dieting or food rules lead to deprivation, which increases food obsession and cravings. Eventually, that buildup can result in binge eating or chaotic eating, followed by guilt and more restriction, repeating the cycle. Can you be restricting food without realizing it? Yes. Restriction does not always look like skipping meals or extreme dieting. It can include labeling foods as "good" or "bad," avoiding certain foods, waiting too long between meals, eating "clean," or creating rigid food rules. Why do I binge eat at night? Many people experience binge eating at night because restriction, stress, hunger, and mental exhaustion build throughout the day. By evening, the body and brain are more vulnerable to overeating, especially after long periods of physical or psychological deprivation. What causes food obsession or "food noise"? Food obsession often increases when the body feels deprived. When you are restricting food or mentally fixating on eating "perfectly," the brain becomes hyper-focused on food as a survival response. How do I stop the binge-restrict cycle? Breaking the binge-restrict cycle starts with identifying the restriction underneath the binge eating. That may include eating more consistently, reducing food rules, challenging guilt around food, and understanding what your body is actually responding to instead of blaming yourself. Resources Brave on Purpose! - Grab my new book here! Grab my Journal Prompts Here! Looking for a speaker for an upcoming event? Let's chat! Now accepting new clients! Find out if we're a good fit! LEAVE A REVIEW + help someone who may need this podcast by sharing this episode. Be sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter here! You can connect with me on Instagram @rachelleheinemann, through my website www.rachelleheinemann.com, or email me directly at rachelle@rachelleheinemann.com
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    9 mins
  • 201. 3 Reasons You Don't Trust Your Hunger

    201. 3 Reasons You Don't Trust Your Hunger
    May 19 2026
    There's a very specific kind of panic that happens when someone says, "Just listen to your hunger." Because in theory? It sounds so simple. Eat when you're hungry. Stop when you're full. Trust your body. Very calming Pinterest quote energy. And then real life happens. In this episode, I'm breaking down why that happens. We're talking about how years of restriction, dieting, food rules, and trying to override your body can completely distort your hunger cues. We're getting into the fear of "if I start eating, I won't stop," why so many people feel like their hunger is excessive or wrong, and why the advice to "just trust your body" can backfire when your body has spent years not being listened to. Quotes "The fear of, 'If I let myself eat, it's never gonna stop, and I'm just gonna keep being hungry because there is no on or off switch, it's just on,' is rooted a lot of time in past experience. So it sort of reinforces the concept that you should be afraid of your hunger." - Rachelle Heinemann "It's really hard to trust a signal when you think that following it will have consequences that you cannot accept." - Rachelle Heinemann "We have to develop accurate hunger cues, and then the trust that you will actually feed it." - Rachelle Heinemann "Hunger is not a failure and it's not dangerous. It's something that is just a signal." - Rachelle Heinemann Frequently Asked Questions Why do my hunger cues feel so extreme? A lot of times, hunger cues feel extreme because your body has spent years not trusting that food is consistently coming. If you restrict, delay eating, skip meals, or constantly override hunger, your body eventually stops giving subtle cues and starts screaming. So instead of "slightly hungry," you go from nothing to starving. Why do I feel hungry again right after eating? Sometimes, because the meal genuinely wasn't enough. Sometimes, because your body is trying to recover from restriction. And sometimes, because hunger doesn't work on the perfect schedule, people think it should. Hunger is not a stopwatch. Your body does not care that lunch was 45 minutes ago if it still needs energy. Why does intuitive eating feel chaotic for me? Because if your body has a history of restriction, "just listen to your hunger" can feel like opening the floodgates. Your body is trying to protect you from famine, not create balance right away. That's why structure and consistency usually have to come before hunger cues feel calm and reliable. Can restriction cause binge eating? Yes. When you repeatedly ignore hunger or don't eat enough, your body eventually responds with urgency around food. That's why binge eating often feels chaotic and out of control after periods of restriction. It's not a lack of willpower. It's your body trying to keep you alive. Why am I always thinking about food? Usually, because your body and brain don't feel safe around food yet. Restriction increases food thoughts. Hunger increases food thoughts. Constant rules around eating increase food thoughts. Most people are shocked by how much quieter their brain gets once they start eating consistently. How do I trust my hunger cues again? Usually not by immediately relying on them. Ironically, trust gets rebuilt through consistency first. Eating regularly, eating enough, and creating structure teach your body that food is not disappearing. Over time, hunger becomes more subtle, clearer, and less urgent. Will I gain weight if I start listening to my hunger? Possibly. Sometimes yes. Sometimes no. The bigger issue is that if you are actively terrified of weight gain while trying to heal your relationship with food, those two things usually fight each other the entire time. Recovery often requires putting intentional weight loss on pause long enough to let your body stabilize. Why does hunger feel emotionally overwhelming? Because for a lot of people, hunger is tied to desire, need, permission, and taking up space. It's not just about food. Listening to hunger often means acknowledging wants and needs in general, and that can feel deeply uncomfortable if you've spent years minimizing yourself. Can hunger cues stop working after years of dieting? Yes. Hunger cues can become really distorted after chronic dieting, restriction, or disordered eating. Some people barely feel hunger until they're ravenous. Others feel hungry all the time. That doesn't mean your body is broken. It usually means your body has adapted to inconsistency. Why can't I stop eating once I start? A lot of people think this means they're addicted to food or lack discipline. Usually, it means they're underfed. When your body thinks food is scarce, it's not interested in moderation. It's interested in survival. Should I eat even if I'm not hungry in recovery? A lot of times, yes. Especially early on. If your hunger cues are unreliable, waiting until you feel hungry enough can keep you stuck in the restriction and binge cycle. Structure helps rebuild ...
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    23 mins
  • 200. 3 Capacities That Matter More Than Motivation in Eating Disorder Recovery

    200. 3 Capacities That Matter More Than Motivation in Eating Disorder Recovery
    May 12 2026

    Guys. We just hit Episode 200!!

    Whether you've been here since the beginning or you just found this podcast five minutes ago, I'm really glad you're here. This space has grown in ways I never expected, and it only works because you keep showing up and actually doing this work alongside me.

    In this episode, we're shifting the focus away from motivation and onto three capacities that actually determine whether you can follow through. These are the things that help you take action when you're tired, overwhelmed, not in the mood, or honestly just done with all of it.

    This is the work that makes recovery possible in real life, not just in theory.

    If you've ever felt stuck in that cycle of wanting to change but not being able to act on it consistently, this is where things start to make a lot more sense.

    Quotes

    "Ultimately, if motivation were enough, most of you would already be recovered." - Rachelle Heinemann

    "Motivation depends on your mood. It depends on your level of energy, and very often eating disorders reduce motivation for recovery because they solve something." - Rachelle Heinemann

    "Recovery requires skills that you can use without that feeling." - Rachelle Heinemann

    "Most eating disorder behaviors are attempts to regulate discomfort quickly. It is not necessarily instant gratification, but in some ways it is." - Rachelle Heinemann

    "There is no full recovery without relational recovery as well." - Rachelle Heinemann

    Resources

    Brave on Purpose! - Grab my new book here!

    Grab my Journal Prompts Here!

    Looking for a speaker for an upcoming event? Let's chat!

    Now accepting new clients! Find out if we're a good fit!

    LEAVE A REVIEW + help someone who may need this podcast by sharing this episode.

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    You can connect with me on Instagram @rachelleheinemann, through my website www.rachelleheinemann.com, or email me directly at rachelle@rachelleheinemann.com
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    16 mins