As the poem goes, “They f-you up, your mom and dad. They may not mean to, but they do.” If Father's Day has ever felt more like something you just get through than something you celebrate, this episode is for you.

This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch sits down with Vienna Pharaon — licensed marriage and family therapist and author of The Origins of You — for a conversation they were both a little ambivalent to have. The topic: what happens when your relationship with your father is complicated. And why that has been so hard to say out loud.

They dig into what it actually looks like to do the healing work, why no contact is more nuanced than the internet makes it seem, and whether we ever really "make our peace" with a parent who hurt us. They both share their own complicated relationships with their fathers, and what it means when that relationship doesn’t look like what you’d expect. If Father's Day has ever had a charge to it for you, this conversation might be exactly what you need.

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Francesca Pilato did not do what she was told. Not once. Not ever. And in 1929 Rochester, New York, that came with consequences no one in her family would talk about for generations.

This week, your host Suzy Welch finishes the 123-year story of her grandmother — a Sicilian immigrant who survived the unthinkable, built something extraordinary, and left behind a yellow dress that sat untouched on a shelf for 30 years. The question is: why wouldn't Suzy wear it?

The answer has everything to do with two values — not virtues — of Voice and Agency. And the difference between judging the people who shaped you and finally having the compassion to let them be exactly who they were.

Part 2 of 2. The scandal lands. The survival begins. And a dress finds its way home.

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A photo in Vogue. A 98-year-old mother's scream of joy. And a 123-year story that begins in a sulfur mine in Sicily and ends — somehow — at New York City's most glamorous luncheon.

This week, your host Suzy Welch starts at the end: a yellow dress, handknit from silk ribbon by her immigrant grandmother, photographed at the Hat Luncheon and published in Vogue. But to understand why that moment meant everything, you have to go back. Way back. We're talking Caltanissetta, Sicily, in 1903, and a family shrouded in secrecy and silence.

Part 1 of this two-part series sets the scene: from the dazzling spectacle of the Hat Luncheon to the gritty, industrial world Suzy's family fought to escape. Next week, the scandal that changed everything.

Your own origin story might look a little different after this one.

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