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When we get angry, upset, or someone does something we don't like, or we feel disadvantaged, we process that information in our mind. It is the only place where we can "come to terms" with what we have experienced, whatever it is. Our levels or degrees of intelligence play a vital part in how we think and look at life. Ghandi said that "forgiveness was not something the lower classes or the uneducated could do", and by and large it appears to be true.

Nothing in life is ever that simple, and if you are "coming out", then you can have additional complications, because of outmoded race or cultural pressures which have no bearing on today's life whatsoever - other than being carried forward by ignorant minds. Taboos, ideologies, personal fears of "what others may think" all stem from redundant thoughts and times of the past. We can't choose who we are, nor how we are, nor indeed where we are.

We all have far more authority than we give ourselves credit for. Our upbringing, the media, rules and regulations, evil religions, outmoded customs and traditions all whittle away at the fabric of who we are. We have notions that saying NO will offend others, or that if we don't give in to certain things, it will upset others or spoil some grand plan. Yet whose life are you living? And what right have others to take away what you want, for themselves?

Life not only throws spanners in the works, it throws at times whatever it can get hold of, it catches us off guard and makes us feel just so vulnerable. Whether it's something financial, health related, work wise, relationships or a combination of all of those it matters not, it is not nice and furthermore very much dulls our outlook on life, which in reality is the last thing we need.

The only person to suffer from un-forgiveness is ourselves. Others can't experience what we think and feel, others can't read our thoughts, only we can get to grips with them. Our pain, torment, self mind talk is purely ours and we are thus the only ones privvy to this, if we get upset then we get upset, no one else will. If we are to move on in life then we must forgive no matter how hard that is.

Mental health today is becoming a big issue. It can manifest itself in a whole array of disorders (outside of clinical disorders), even the thought of mental health problems alienates many from the word go, and their repetitive self thinking often creates more or even ficticious problems which only adds to an already aggravated situation.

Many people today are desperate for love. They think that once love arrives all their problems will be solved or cushioned to an extent that they will be able to cope better. Love doesn't work like that. Love comes in many guises and each and everyone are unique to that person. Those that say "I have a lot of love to give to the right person" are usually selfish to a huge degree. Love never runs out, and the more love you give to life and those around you the richer it gets.

This audio download discusses areas of our life that by and large we tend to keep quiet about. Our fetishes, our secret desires, private hobbies and likes etc, often that are out of the "norm" or general understanding of pedestrian thought. This can lead us to living a "double life", it can be exciting, it can be cruel, it can be unkind and it can be lonely.

Accepting yourself just the way you are is the most liberating thing you can do. Second guessing as to what others think isn't an option, it's a let down by the self, the right people will love you for who you are. This audio download discusses what it means to be you and why there should be NO excuses or anything else that's negative about yourself. Your pathway is unique even if at times it tends to seemingly be parallel with others or situations, it is never the less unqiue.

It is true that a smile can elevate the soul, improve your wellbeing, make you more accessible to others and indeed companies if you go for an interview. But what happens when we are hurting, saddened, unhappy, lonely, fearful, upset? The first thing we should not do is "Stop smiling" wearing our anguish only tends to make matters worse and sympathy is a hollow virtue in that it can elevate the senses but has no substance whatsoever.

We talk about what is and what isn't normal, but in reality "Normal" is only a relative term. What some call normal is abnormal for others (what is normal for a spider is chas for the fly). Everything in life is perspective based and that is relative to our understanding, background, education, religion and cultural habits. Our views on life can at times even make us wonder perhaps "Am I normal" in relation to others and vice versa.

Forget about "Blame Culture" or circumstances or situations, you are in charge of your life at all times, never ever forget that. You wouldn't leave home naked so don't leave home thinking that someone else is in charge of you. Never ever give your authority away to anyone else no matter who or what. Yes, you have to comply at times to where you are whether at work or play, but that doesn't mean being subservient or a sponge to others who are bombastic or domineering.

Are you as happy as you you'd like to be? Feeling satisfied with your job? Getting along well with family members? Experiencing serenity, at least some of the time? Do you think your life situation is contributing to your longevity or pushing you toward an early grave? Nothing is more critical to the quality of our lives than our relationships, and nothing is more critical to our relationships than how we communicate.