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hey, wait

hey, wait

By: Jay Moon Fields
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If being smart could give you a better experience of yourself—in your relationships, your work, your life—you'd already be there. But you're not. From the outside, things probably look good. But internally, something's off. You're second-guessing yourself. Losing your center with other people. Performing a version of "having it together" that doesn't actually feel like you. Hey, Wait is about interrupting that. Because those two words—hey, wait—are the moment where something different becomes possible. Hosted by a somatic coach, the show looks at what's actually driving your patterns—not just in your thoughts, but also in your nervous system, your conditioning, and your body. Through solo episodes and candid conversations with people who understand somatics, nervous system regulation, and energy medicine, you'll start to see what it takes to stop reacting on autopilot—and start responding from something more real and whole in yourself. If you're smart, sensitive and tired of understanding your patterns but still ending up in them—this is for you.2025 Personal Development Personal Success
Episodes
  • From Fawning to Freedom: Reclaiming Your Wholeness with Dr. Ingrid Clayton | Episode 42

    From Fawning to Freedom: Reclaiming Your Wholeness with Dr. Ingrid Clayton | Episode 42
    Jun 4 2026

    Have you ever felt like you go missing in your own life to keep others comfortable? Fawning is an unconscious survival mechanism rooted in the nervous system that prioritizes someone else's happiness and demands over your own experience and boundaries. This episode features two fawners in recovery exploring how to break that trance, stop performing helpfulness, and start trusting your own internal compass.

    Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a therapist with a PhD in private practice and the author of the deeply personal book Fawning. She works with survivors of complex childhood trauma and brings deep insight into relational trauma, healing, and the messy, slow work of learning to unfawn.

    In this episode, Jay and Dr. Ingrid discuss:
    ► The crucial difference between genuine kindness or empathy and a fawning response driven by self-abandonment.
    ► Why chronic fawners often see other people's relational red flags as on-ramps to their own helpfulness.
    ► How clients, therapists, and coaches often unknowingly fawn with each other during professional sessions.
    ► How to tell the difference between staying in an asymmetrical relationship to do genuine healing work versus repeating a cycle of re-traumatization.
    ► The complexities of the "Let Them" theory and how it can sometimes embolden a trauma response instead of setting healthy boundaries.

    Learn more about Dr. Ingrid Clayton
    ► Substack: https://ingridclaytonphd.substack.com/
    ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd

    If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

    Stay connected with Jay

    ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
    ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
    ►DIY Online Course to Support Unfawning: https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly
    ► 1:1 Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
    ► Book: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
    ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

    Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

    Credits
    This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
    For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com

    For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com

    Original Music produced by Dalton Grant
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    1 hr and 5 mins
  • The Missing Link in Sexual Pleasure: Your Nervous System with Lisa West | Episode 41

    The Missing Link in Sexual Pleasure: Your Nervous System with Lisa West | Episode 41
    May 21 2026

    Have you ever wondered why it can be so hard to stay in your body during moments of intimacy? This episode explores the deep connection between your nervous system, your body, and your capacity for pleasure.

    Lisa West is a physical therapist, bodyworker, and yoga practitioner of over 30 years and the author of the book Follow the Feeling, A Roadmap to Emotional Freedom.

    She has worked with clients navigating midlife, chronic pain, and trauma and brings deep insight into sexual medicine, pelvic health, and nervous system regulation.

    In this episode, Jay and Lisa discuss:

    ► The shift from constant upward, productive energy to honoring the downward-flowing energy (apana vayu) of the body.

    ► Why arousal requires a baseline parasympathetic (relaxed) state and how to find the sweet spot of flow between relaxation and stimulation.

    ► The misconception that pain during sex or pelvic exams is normal, and how pelvic floor physical therapy can help.

    ► The truth about women's arousal, including the fact that only about 30% of women can orgasm from penetration alone.

    ► Simple, fluid movements and grounding practices—like softening the jaw to access the pelvis—that help you stay present and connected to yourself.

    Learn more about Lisa West

    ► Website: https://lisawestwellness.com

    ► Instagram: @LisaYogini

    ► Other links: Follow the Feeling on Amazon and courses on Teachable

    If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

    Stay connected with Jay

    ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com

    ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

    ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B

    ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

    ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

    Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

    Credits

    This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.

    For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com

    For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com

    Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

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    51 mins
  • How to Stop People Pleasing And Emotional Outsourcing with Beatriz Albina | Episode 40

    How to Stop People Pleasing And Emotional Outsourcing with Beatriz Albina | Episode 40
    May 7 2026
    People pleasing, perfectionism and codependence, oh my! Are you exhausted from constantly managing the people around you and performing for safety? If so, this is the episode you need if you want to stop looking outward for validation and actually feel safe being yourself. Beatriz Victoria Albina is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Somatic Coach, and the author of the bestselling book End Emotional Outsourcing. She has worked with humans socialized as women looking to regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, and brings deep insight into untangling codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing. In this episode, Jay and Bea discuss: ► What "emotional outsourcing" really means and how it's a shame-free replacement term for codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. ► The sneaky mixed nervous system state of "functional freeze," where you might look like an impressive, highly productive overachiever on the outside but are totally frozen to your feelings on the inside. ► Why you need to stop viewing these behaviors as individual character flaws and start celebrating them as the brilliant childhood survival skills they once were. ► How performing for self-worth and living in a constant state of panic might literally be messing with your poop and digestion (because science!). ► The game-changing difference between being self-aware and being self-referential, plus a sweet little somatic grounding practice to help you reconnect with the earth. Learn more about Beatriz Victoria Albina ► Website: https://beatrizalbina.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp ► YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina ► Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022 ► End Emotional Outsourcing Book: https://bookshop.org/p/books/end-emotional-outsourcing-how-to-overcome-your-codependent-perfectionist-and-people-pleasing-habits-beatriz-victoria-albina-np-mph-sep/54b675f3d3e5154a?ean=9781538766439&next=t If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Fun Vibes 08:03 Fawning vs. Emotional Outsourcing 12:39 Survival Skills vs. Flaws 15:10 Compassion for Our Inner Parts 17:16 Teaching New Skills to Our Inner Child 18:15 Dating Under-Functioners and Emotional Immaturity 20:52 Navigating Emotional Isolation 22:27 Creating Safety and Belonging 24:15 The Importance of Community in Healing 25:54 Understanding Societal Influences on Emotional Health 27:25 Generational Differences in Emotional Awareness 30:03 The Role of Science in Emotional Understanding 32:46 The Gut-Brain Connection 35:35 Practicing Presence for Emotional Well-being 39:15 Self-Referential Awareness vs. Outsourcing 41:09 The Journey to Your Favorite Life 43:07 Shifting Perspectives on Thought Work 46:20 The Importance of Somatic Experience 50:29 Catalysts for Change and Liberation 55:30 Grounding Practices for Connection Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com ► Yours Truly Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly (Code heywait-100 for $100 off!) ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant
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    1 hr and 2 mins
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