In this episode of This Changes Everything, we explore a powerful connection that quietly shapes every relationship in your life: the way you treat yourself is how you teach others to treat you.

At the center of the conversation are core beliefs, the invisible, often unconscious stories we carry about our worth, love, and safety. Beliefs like “I’m too much,” “I have to earn love,” or “If I set boundaries, I’ll be rejected” don’t just live in our minds. They shape our behavior, our relationships, and what we tolerate.

We break down how these beliefs are formed through childhood dynamics and past relationships, and how they show up in adulthood through patterns like over-explaining, accepting less than we want, and avoiding conflict even when something doesn’t feel right. You’ll also be guided through a simple exercise to help identify your own core beliefs in real time.

From there, we move into the role of boundaries and how they are not about pushing people away, but about defining self-respect in action. Boundaries are one of the clearest expressions of self-love. They communicate what you will and won’t accept, and they create the structure that allows relationships to feel safe, honest, and sustainable.

At the heart of this episode is a key insight: we don’t get treated how we want. We get treated how we believe we deserve. And boundaries are how we begin to rewrite that belief through action.

This is a conversation about self-trust, emotional awareness, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself in the name of love.

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Today Sarah is talking to Dr. Liesel Sharabi, an associate professor in the Hugh Downs School of Human Communication and Director of the Relationships & Technology Lab at Arizona State University and co-founder of The Modern Love Collective. Dr. Sharabi shares how young daters are navigating dating in the technology era, the best approach to looking for a partner, and steps to take when you're single and what to get back out there. She analyzes the finds of the Hily Dating App T.R.U.T.H Report, and explains why we can be our own worst enemies when looking for a partner, the stress we endure if we start worrying about what our friends and family think of the people we date, and why physical attraction isn't the best predictor of long-term relationship success.

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This is the first in a series, where we'll talk exclusively about relationships, dating, compatibility, and finding your person. Anyone who has been single in a last few years knows it is a whole new ballgame with social media, online dating, and digital culture, and a lot of people feel intimidated by confronting the new reality of relationships in this environment. And if you're already in a relationship you might even wonder if you're in the right one for you. So first I'll give you the tools to assess whether the relationship you're in is even viable, healthy, and satisfying. This will help you know whether you need to make some changes and cut ties. And if you're already single, it will provide some ideas on how to assess what it is that you're looking for in a partner and how to find the right person for you. This series will help empower you to make the right choices for dating, love, and partnership.

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