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The Sacred We

The Sacred We

By: Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren
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A conscious relationship podcast for couples and individuals exploring intimacy, somatic healing, sacred love, and conscious parenting. Hosted by Somatic Therapist & Mystic, Courtney Wren and Relationship Coach, Mike Elliott, Together blends real-life vulnerability with expert tools for growth, connection, and devotion. Deepen trust, navigate parenting, and experience the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren Relationships Social Sciences
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  • From Dismissed and Invisible to Heard and Seen

    From Dismissed and Invisible to Heard and Seen
    Jun 4 2026
    Curious about our new Masterclass? 👉Sign up for Seen & Heard a Sacred We deep dive: https://www.sacredrelating.com/Heard&SeenIf something's pulling you toward this work, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call →Tune-in Call with CourtneyWhat happens inside your body when you don’t feel heard? Your nervous system reads it as danger. Your defenses go up. And the very person you love becomes someone you can’t quite reach.In this episode of The Sacred We, Mike and Courtney go deep into one of the most fundamental wounds in a relationship: the pain of feeling dismissed and invisible. They open with a raw, real story from their own week—Courtney asking to be met with more touch and warmth during a busy, full season, and Mike sharing his moment in the kitchen where he chose to move toward her, slowly and intentionally, hand on her heart, meeting her eyes. What unfolded was alchemy.This isn’t just a love story. It’s a masterclass in the nervous system, attachment, and the sacred practice of learning to truly see each other.Why being heard and seen is a biological need, not just an emotional preferenceWhat your nervous system does when it doesn’t feel safe enough to receive loveThe surprising truth about why your partner may not be withholding—they literally can’t hear youHow to deliver what you need to be heard in a way that actually landsDan Siegel’s integration framework and why relational attunement is the missing ingredientBONUS: The one thing you can do to cut through your partner’s defenses instantly—even mid-conflictNeuro-ception and why the nervous system scans for safety before it can open to loveCuriosity as a relational practice in triggered momentsThe difference between authenticity and relational attunement—and why you need bothWhen you’re not hearing each other vs. when you literally can’t receiveThe Heard & Seen Framework—practiced live in a real storyHeard & Seen Masterclass — Sunday, June 7th, 6–7:30pm PST | $97 | For couples and individuals calling in sacred partnership. Teaching, Q&A, and somatic practice. Recording available.Mapping Your Relational Imprint — Courtney’s 1:1 private container for deep individual somatic and attachment work. Uncover the blueprint driving your patterns in love.Couples Work with Mike & Courtney — Private 2:2 intensive containers for couples ready to do the deep work together with full support.👉Sign up for our couples list HERE: https://www.sacredrelating.com/thesacredwe💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/2-2-container-detailsWork with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man →https://www.skool.com/theinitiatedman💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelating.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.relatingShare it with someone who needs to hear this. Leave us a 5-star review and tell us what landed for you. Send us a DM we love hearing from you.
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  • Why Your Partner Doesn't Really See You

    Why Your Partner Doesn't Really See You
    May 28 2026

    Ready to go deeper? Join Mike and Courtney on June 8th for a 90-minute live deep dive on the To Be Seen and Heard Framework.

    👉Sign up for Seen & Heard a Sacred We deep dive: https://www.sacredrelating.com/Heard&Seen


    If you clicked this, some part of you doesn't feel seen. This episode starts by honouring that ache — and then it gives you a map.

    In this raw and deeply personal solo episode, Mike Elliott traces the arc of his own unseenness from childhood to adulthood — and distils everything he's learned into three grounded, practical points.

    It starts with a rupture. Mike had a best friend from the age of 5 to 12. A fight, a shame spiral, and no one to guide him through the repair. His parents didn't notice. No one attuned. So he disappeared — three years of isolation, a skateboarding obsession, and the quiet belief that something was fundamentally wrong with him.

    Then, at 16, he became a lifeguard. People saw him. Women wanted to date him. His whole reality cracked open. Not because he'd changed — but because he'd finally found a mirror. And what that mirror showed him is one of the most powerful illustrations of what feeling seen actually does to a human being.

    This episode covers:

    • The two root causes of not feeling seen — and why one of them has nothing to do with your partner

    • Why our culture has trained us to immediately reciprocate compliments rather than actually receive them

    • The sabotage cycle: attracting love, then pushing it away — and what's underneath it

    • What's actually needed: teaching someone how to see you vs. waiting for them to figure it out

    • The bedroom moment — Mike asks Courtney to see him as a father, slows down to let it land, and watches something unexpected happen from the overflow

    • The 30-second practice that starts rewiring your capacity to receive

    "Every single human being needs to feel seen, heard, and understood to integrate their lived experience and truly belong."

    If you want to go deeper, Mike and Courtney are hosting a 90-minute live deep dive on June 8th — going two inches wide and two miles deep on the To Be Seen and Heard framework. Details in the show notes.

    And if this episode is calling you toward the relational work itself — Courtney's Mapping Your Imprints Masterclass, her 1:1 private container, and Mike and Courtney's 2:2 couples work are all available. Links below.

    We love you. Let yourself be seen.


    Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call →Tune-in Call with Courtney


    👉Sign up for our couples list HERE: https://www.sacredrelating.com/thesacredwe

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    💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠

    Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠

    Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠

    📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠

    🏹Join the Initiated Man →https://www.skool.com/theinitiatedman

    💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠


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    27 mins
  • Why One-on-One Support Is Ruining Your Relationship

    Why One-on-One Support Is Ruining Your Relationship
    May 14 2026
    Ready to do the relational work — not just the individual work? Mike and Courtney's 2:2 couples container holds both of you, tracks the patterns in real time, and wires you toward connection.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠What if the most well-intentioned support you're getting is quietly wiring you further from your partner?In this disruptive, deeply honest episode, Mike and Courtney challenge one of the most common beliefs in the personal growth world: that doing more individual work will fix what's broken in your relationship.It won't. And they've both lived it.Courtney spent the first several years of her career as a therapist watching the same thing happen over and over: the more she affirmed each person's individual pain, the more separation grew. Mike worked with his first couple using 15 years of coaching skill — and things got more volatile. Both of them kept hitting the same wall: individual support, without relational training and advocacy for the relationship itself, doesn't heal the we. It erodes it.Research backs this up. Studies show that therapists without relational training will pathologize the absent partner, affirm boundaries that create distance, and push individuals toward personal empowerment in ways that quietly chip away at the bond.In this episode:Why individual work and relational work are completely different skill setsThe three pieces of bad advice most commonly given by therapists not in relationship: more boundaries, take more space, they're not readyWhy "take a month apart" in rupture is often the worst possible advice — and what the nervous system actually needs"Neurons that fire together, wire together" — and why hearts and nervous systems are no differentThe three phases of relational consciousness: Me, You-Me, and WeWhy interdependence is not codependenceA real script for teaching even single friends to hold the sacred weThe honest report card for every support person in your life: is it leading to more connection?"You have to go through it to grow through it." This episode will challenge you, orient you, and give you a new lens for every support relationship in your life.Ready to do the actual relational work? Mike and Courtney offer 2:2 couples containers, Courtney's Mapping Your Imprints 1:1 private container, and her upcoming Masterclass. Links in show notes.We love you. Turn towards each other. 💛Curious about Mapping your Imprinting with Courtney?If something's pulling you toward this work, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call →Tune-in Call with Courtney👉Sign up Courtney’s Masterclass: https://www.courtneywren.com/mapping-your-relational-imprint-sales-page👉Sign up for our couples list HERE: https://www.sacredrelating.com/thesacredwe👉 Learn more here:⁠ https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelating.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelating**MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15
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