Do you realize you're still carrying grief from 20 years ago?

Sarah, Amy Liz Harrison, and Erin Lane break down The Grief Recovery Handbook by John James and Russell Friedman in this vulnerable Boozeless Book Club episode. They explore how unresolved grief shows up in codependency patterns, relationship addiction, people-pleasing, and chronic activation. From childhood friendship losses to miscarriage to sexual assault to empty nest, the Crazy Cats share what happened when they actually wrote completion letters and made their grief timelines. This episode is for anyone who thought they didn't have anything to grieve or has been white-knuckling their way through loss for decades.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Grief isn't just about death. It includes job loss, friendship shifts, miscarriage, divorce, empty nest, career changes, and even losing who you thought you were.
• The Grief Recovery Handbook recommends creating a timeline of losses from birth to now, then writing completion letters that include positives, negatives, emotional impact statements, and unsaid things.
• Unresolved grief can show up as depression, addiction, relationship addiction, compulsive busyness, fear of intimacy, detachment, physical problems, and a general lack of aliveness.
• Women especially carry unprocessed grief from childhood friendship losses, which can activate us when our own kids experience rejection or exclusion.
• Completing grief doesn't mean forgetting. It means creating space for new life without being haunted by old pain.

GUEST BIOS

Amy Liz Harrison is a writer, speaker, and recovery advocate. Mother of eight, she brings honesty and humor to conversations about faith, family, and healing.

Erin Lane is a writer and storyteller navigating grief, motherhood, and recovery with vulnerability and grace.

RESOURCES & LINKS

The Grief Recovery Handbook by John James and Russell Friedman

Notable Quote

"We pathologize grief. We don't make space for this normal process. All human beings experience it, yet there's no space for it." — Sarah

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