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  • I Love My Mama, But She Made Me Feel Some Type of Way

    I Love My Mama, But She Made Me Feel Some Type of Way
    May 12 2026

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    Episode Description

    What happens when you love your mother deeply, but the relationship still hurts?

    In this episode of The Black Mother Wound Podcast, Jennifer Arnise opens up a conversation that so many Black daughters struggle to name: the difference between loving your mother and being honest about what the relationship has cost you.

    After a conversation at the Black Effect Podcast Festival, Jennifer reflects on how quickly we answer, “I love my mama,” when the real question is, “What is your relationship like with her?” Because love and relationship are not the same thing. You can love your mother and still feel hurt. You can honor her and still tell the truth. You can be grateful and still grieve what you did not receive.

    This episode unpacks why Black women are often taught to protect their mothers, even when it means abandoning themselves. Jennifer explores loyalty, guilt, self-betrayal, emotional honesty, and the cultural pressure to keep performing love instead of experiencing real connection.

    This conversation is not about choosing between love and pain. It is about giving yourself permission to hold both truths and come back home to yourself.

    In This Episode, We Talk About

    Why “I love my mother” does not always answer the real question.

    How Black daughters are taught to confuse loyalty with connection.

    Why telling the truth about your mother can feel like betrayal.

    The difference between love and relationship.

    How protecting your mother’s image can lead to abandoning yourself.

    Why your mother does not have to agree with your lived experience for it to be valid.

    How shame convinces you that being hurt makes you a bad daughter.

    Why healing the mother wound is really about repairing the relationship with yourself.

    Key Takeaways

    You can love your mother and still be hurt by her.

    You can be grateful for what she did and still grieve what you did not get.

    Your lived experience does not need your mother’s approval to be true.

    Love asks, “Do I care about her?”
    Relationship asks, “What happens to me when I am connected to her?”

    Telling the truth is not betrayal. Abandoning yourself is.

    There is no debt you owe for being born, raised, fed, clothed, or protected.

    Healing begins when you stop making your value dependent on your position in your mother’s life.

    Reflection Questions

    What do I feel before I explain it away?

    Where am I performing love instead of experiencing connection?

    Where do I abandon myself to keep a relationship stable?

    What would change if I stopped needing my mother to agree with my truth?

    Am I protecting peace, or am I protecting the image of a relationship?

    Listener Invitation

    If this episode brought something up for you, sit with it before you rush to explain it away. Let yourself tell the truth without judging it. You do not have to choose between loving your mother and acknowledging your pain. Two things can be true.

    Mentioned In This Episode

    Jennifer will be hosting Healing Our Black Mother Wound: A Live Experience on June 13th in Charlotte. The event will include a live podcast recording, audience questions, a fireside chat, healing techniques, and community connection. Ticket information will be available in the show notes.

    DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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    33 mins
  • The Black Mother Wound: Dealing with Mother’s Day When You Have a Mother Wound

    The Black Mother Wound: Dealing with Mother’s Day When You Have a Mother Wound
    May 10 2026

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    Mother's Day can feel like a minefield when your relationship with your mother has been painful or distant. Society tells us to celebrate with flowers and praise, but what if that’s not your truth? You don’t have to pretend. You don’t have to perform. You are allowed to be honest about how you feel.

    Instead of being swept up in the pressure and performance, start focusing on what’s real for you. This week, pay attention to what lifts you. Celebrate the people and the progress that remind you you’re loved, seen, and growing. Let your joy come from within, not from forced expectations.

    And if sadness shows up—let it. Feel it. Care for yourself with compassion, not shame. Healing doesn’t mean you never hurt. It means you know how to care for yourself when you do.

    This Mother’s Day, center yourself. You get to define what this day means to you now. And that, in itself, is powerful.

    In this episode, we talk about how to care for yourself before and during Mother’s Day, especially if your relationship with your mom is painful or complicated. I share why it’s important to be honest about how I really feel, stop telling fake stories, and stay grounded in my truth. Instead of forcing happiness or pretending everything’s okay, I offer real ways to comfort yourself, feel your feelings, and find joy in your own life. This is a gentle, honest conversation to help you stay grounded during a tough time.

    Topics Covered:

    (00:00:00) Episode Snippet

    (00:00:12) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast

    (00:04:24) Be honest about how you feel

    (00:05:59) Society can confuse your real feelings

    (00:07:35) Mine for good feelings

    (00:09:28) You create your feelings

    (00:20:31) The fantasy is your underdeveloped ego

    (00:22:54) Your responsibility is to you

    (00:23:42) Resolve doors are open

    (00:24:50) Fireside Chat Question

    Key Takeaways:

    “Healing really is about taking back control of your own mind.”

    DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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    Ep 060: Dealing with Mother’s Day When You Have a Mother Wound May 6, 2025

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    26 mins
  • When She Won't Let You Grow Up

    When She Won't Let You Grow Up
    May 5 2026
    Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-courseWork with me one-on-one Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. Strength was never meant to cost this much. What looked like maturity was often a child trying to survive. Needs were set aside. Feelings were handled alone. Responsibility came too early, and being “the strong one” slowly became a way of life. It was praised and even admired, but underneath it all was a quiet loss of comfort, safety, and being cared for without having to earn it. That way of living does not stay in childhood. It follows into adulthood and shapes how love is experienced. Care becomes something to give, not receive. Worth feels tied to what can be offered. And even when love is present, it can feel unfamiliar, hard to trust, or difficult to fully accept. There is also a quiet grief. Growing up too fast, carrying too much, and doing it all alone. Beneath that grief is a question that lingers. What would life feel like without the weight? Healing begins with awareness. Noticing the patterns. Questioning the beliefs behind them. Making space for something different. A life where care is not earned, but received. In this episode, I sit down with Dorcas Asuming Opoku to unpack the reality of the parentified child and the lasting impact of the mother wound. We talk about the hidden loneliness behind high performance, the blurred line between protection and control, and the internal conflict of longing for love while struggling to receive it. This conversation offers language for what has been felt but rarely named, and a starting point for creating a life that is no longer shaped by survival alone. “Sometimes the mother does not see the daughter as a separate individual, you are an extension of her. She can't see you as separate.” – Dorcas Asuming Opoku Topics Covered:00:00:00 — Episode snippet00:00:58 — Introducing our guest, Dorcas Asuming Opoku00:03:22 — Why choosing a new path is allowed in life00:05:26 — What is a parentified child?00:09:50 — The hidden cost of being “the strong one”00:13:02 — When is the breakthrough moment in healing?00:18:44 — Where shame begins in childhood00:21:30 — Sharing breaks shame00:28:28 — Why “explainable” is not the same as “excusable”00:31:10 — The mother as authority and savior figure00:37:01 — The grief of lost time and lost self00:42:54 — Protection versus control in parenting00:48:59 — Daughter seen as extension, not separate self 00:50:27 — Daughter as “redemption plan” for mother’s unmet life 00:52:37 — Fear and control when daughters individuate 00:56:10 — How does guilt shape us? 01:00:37 — Approval-seeking becomes identity 01:02:28 — Sitting with the discomfort of disappointing people 01:05:51 — Prioritize yourself 01:10:27 — Regulation over reaction in triggering relationships 01:12:07 — Community as support in healing 01:13:56 — Relationship is a dance 01:14:41 — Building a new emotional ecosystem 01:16:02 — Building a new emotional ecosystem Key Takeaways: “Every shame that she holds within, she also sees in you. Everything that she dislikes about herself, she also sees in you.” “You are my redemption plan. If I didn't go to college, you have to do this. You have to do that.” “With guilt comes obligatory loyalty.” “The number one way a black woman can… show that she's a good person is that she does what her mama says.” “You get the most affirmation from a mother who compliments you very minimally.” “You no longer really understand who you are because you're constantly on a journey of performing.” “You have to choose you over her.” “Community is a pillar in healing.” “You still exist wholly, even if she sees you differently.” “Stop allowing your mother to dictate your environment. The people in your life are a representation of your own ecosystem.” About the Guest Dorcas Asuming Opoku is a Black British Ghanaian integrative psychotherapeutic counselor based in London. She supports high-achieving professionals who are tired of people-pleasing and holding everything together, helping them address deeper emotional patterns through a trauma-informed and culturally attuned approach. Connect with Dorcas Asuming Opoku TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dorcas.asumingopoku Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dorcas.asumingopoku/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dorcasopoku DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional ...
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    1 hr and 18 mins
  • Stop Talking to Yourself Like That

    Stop Talking to Yourself Like That
    Apr 28 2026
    Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-courseWork with me one-on-oneJoin RESOLVE Evolved Today Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. *************************************** The way you speak to yourself did not start with you.The words spoken over you, and the ones that never came, do not simply pass through, they take root. They settle into the soil of your mind, growing into beliefs that shape how you see yourself, how you move, and what you believe you are allowed to have. Over time, those beliefs become patterns, and those patterns begin to feel like identity. What started as someone else’s voice can become the one that guides your choices, questions your instincts, and defines your worth.Along the way, that voice can feel like the truth. A mother’s words can echo so loudly that they become the lens through which everything is filtered. Even her silence can speak, teaching you what is valuable by what was never affirmed. Without realizing it, life can begin to orbit around unspoken rules, where rest feels like something to earn, joy feels excessive, and expression feels unsafe. The result is a quiet shrinking, a life shaped more by limitation than possibility.Change begins by listening closely to what has been running in the background. Not to silence it immediately, but to understand it. To sit with it, to trace where it came from, and to gently introduce something new. This is not about fixing what is broken, but about tending to what was planted. With new language, spoken with intention and care, new beliefs can grow, creating space for a life that feels more honest, more grounded, and more your own.In this episode, I sit down with Britnei Nicole to explore how language shapes identity, behavior, and healing within the mother wound. We talk about how words become belief systems, how traditional Black parenting influences what is passed down, and how even silence can define self-worth. This conversation opens the door to a different way of relating to yourself, one where you begin to choose the words that will shape who you are becoming.“You don’t have to attack your thoughts to change them; you can respond with care. There is healing power in not trying to change the feeling right away, but sitting with it.” – Britnei NicoleTopics Covered:00:00 — Episode snippet00:10 — Introducing our guest, Britnei Nicole03:03 — How does language shape who we become?05:00 — Language as the technology of belief06:36 — Healing requires making thoughts “moldable”09:00 — Your mother as your first mirror11:40 — How does language impact identity?15:56 — Power struggles between Black mothers and daughters19:01 — Language that creates self-doubt and weakens self-trust20:26 — Rewiring your thoughts takes practice23:21 — Root belief: Life is made of suffering27:07 — Limiting yourself once meant staying safe28:10 — You are built for a different time30:20 — Choose to do your own inner work31:46 — Taking your mother off the pedestal33:38 — Perfection blocks real connection36:40 — Her perspective is not the only truth37:31 — Rest, joy, pleasure40:00 — No “right way” to be a Black woman43:08 — Start with your needs before pleasure47:10 — Build a relationship with yourself48:16 — Release shame around centering yourself51:09 — Rebuilding your expression and voice54:36 — Sit with the critical voice first58:10 — Validate before trying to change01:00:04 — Healing is a relationship with yourself01:01:10 — Safety allows to access deeper memories01:02:19 — Healing starts with changing your self-talk01:03:17 — Words carry power and energy01:04:15 — Healing doesn’t erase your experiences01:06:29 — Turning pain into strength01:07:39 — You can put down what isn’t yours01:10:25 — Connect with Britnei NicoleKey Takeaways:“Language is the technology that creates these patterns of thought in our mind.”“If we’re constantly thinking a certain way, we become a certain way.”“Language brings the experience to life and makes it something your brain can engage with.”“To heal something, it has to be like clay—you have to be able to soften it and make something new out of it.”“A mother is a daughter’s first mirror of what it means to be a feminine being in the world.”“You can actually take control of your thoughts, decide what you think, and change them.”“We are still parenting from survival, even though we are no longer living in those conditions.”“Limiting yourself once meant staying safe, but now it keeps you small.”“You have to choose to run your own updates because no one else can do it for you.”“Your body has been trained to believe you don’t deserve goodness, so even pleasure can feel unsafe.”“Confidence comes from competence, and competence comes from practicing expression.”About the GuestBrittany Nicole is a writer, speaker,...
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    1 hr and 11 mins
  • Living Through Your Mother's Fears

    Living Through Your Mother's Fears
    Apr 21 2026
    Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-courseWork with me one-on-oneJoin RESOLVE Evolved Today Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. *************************************** Fear is not always yours, even when it feels like it lives inside you. Much of what feels like hesitation, overthinking, and self-doubt can be inherited, passed down through generations as protection but experienced as limitation. What once helped keep someone safe can quietly shape how you move, what you avoid, and what you believe is possible for your life. Over time, that fear can sound like your own voice, guiding your decisions and making you question your instincts. It can look like being careful, strategic, and prepared, while underneath it is a deep fear of getting it wrong. Along the way, it becomes easy to confuse fear with wisdom. A mother’s anxiety can feel like guidance, and her control can feel like love, making it difficult to recognize where her experiences end and your life begins. This creates a pattern of second-guessing, seeking validation, and avoiding risks, all while believing it is the right way to move. The result is a life shaped more by what is being avoided than what is truly desired. Breaking away from this requires awareness, patience, and the willingness to try differently. It means learning to recognize your own voice, separating it from what was taught, and slowly choosing based on truth instead of fear. The process is not immediate, but each small step creates space for a life that reflects who you are, not what you inherited. In this episode, I talk about the fear you inherited from your mother and how it shapes your ability to trust yourself, make decisions, and take risks. I share how this fear is rooted in history, survival, and generational patterns, and how it can show up as overthinking, perfectionism, and self-doubt. I walk you through how to begin identifying what is yours and what is not, and I invite you to start choosing your own path, even when it feels uncomfortable. “Fear became the way that we kept ourselves safe. That fear that was once rational became something we passed down, and we thought it was love, but it is trauma.”– Jennifer Arnise Topics Covered:00:00 — Episode snippet00:21 — Welcome to the Black Mother Wound Podcast02:34 — The Inherited Fear04:25 — Your mother’s fear becomes your voice05:08 — Her fear vs your reality08:12 — You are built for a different time09:10 — Traditional Black parenting shaped by survival10:50 — Separate her fear from your own16:04 — Inherited fear makes you doubt your decisions18:02 — Fear disguised as strategy19:57 — Fear-based parenting and its impact23:50 — Signs you are living from inherited fear24:49 — How obedience keeps you stuck in fear26:10 — Carrying your mother’s fear for love and approval28:48 — What fear is driving your life?30:20 — Reparenting yourself31:21 — Choose your own path Key Takeaways:“We don’t know that we’re looking through the lens of our mother’s trauma when we see ourselves and the world.”“The core of you not being able to trust yourself is not because you’re not capable, it’s because of your mother’s fear.”“Our mother’s worst-case scenarios felt like the truth, and because of that we learned to second-guess everything.”“We discount our own instincts and our own intuition because we believe our mothers know what is best for us.”“We are built with a different technology based on the world we are living in now. Our mothers didn’t grow up with the same access, autonomy, and opportunities that we have.”“You’re going to have to learn the difference between the fear you inherited and your own thoughts, ideas, and emotions.”“More than success, more than having the life of your dreams, we want a mother who loves us and approves of us.”“As long as you are living through your mother’s fear, your compass is off and you don’t have a true direction.” DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience. Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackmotherwound See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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    33 mins
  • Was My Mama Depressed?

    Was My Mama Depressed?
    Apr 14 2026
    Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-courseWork with me one-on-oneJoin RESOLVE Evolved Today Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. Strength was never meant to cost you your humanity. Being “strong” often starts as a response to what was missing. Growing up with a mother who was struggling, especially in silence, can teach you to take care of yourself before you’re ready. For many Black women, this means learning early that your needs come second, vulnerability doesn’t feel safe, and independence becomes the default. What begins as survival slowly turns into identity, where carrying everything alone feels normal. Over time, this way of living becomes familiar. You keep going, you show up, you handle things, even when you’re exhausted. The world praises how much you can carry, but rarely sees what it costs you. Without realizing it, the same coping patterns you witnessed can become your own, leaving little room for rest, support, or softness. Change begins when you realize that not everything you carry is yours. Some patterns were learned, others were passed down. Healing looks like making different choices, letting people in, setting boundaries, and giving yourself compassion. Support and community are not weaknesses, they are necessary. In this episode, I sit down with Christin Haynes to talk about what it means to grow up as a daughter of depression and how the “strong Black woman” role is formed. We talk about how coping patterns are passed down, how identity is shaped, and why community is so important for healing. This conversation puts words to experiences many have felt and offers a starting point for doing things differently. “Remixing your idea as to what a strong Black woman is a setup for depression every single time.” – Christin Haynes Topics Covered: 00:00 — Episode Snippet00:36 — Welcome to the Black Mother Wound Podcast01:29 — Introducing Christin Haynes and her research03:18 — Studying the mother-daughter relationship through lived experience07:42 — Legacy work across generations12:08 — Unnamed maternal depression creates early independence14:58 — How survival shaped religion and self-worth 18:16 — Depressive behaviors passed down through modeling 19:40 — Realizing learned coping no longer works 21:10 — The role of “other mothers” and community 26:44 — “Strong Black woman” as a setup for depression 30:17 — Say it out loud, break the shame 32:00 — Lack of vulnerability33:53 — Understanding your mother brings healing 35:46 — It was never about you 37:10 — Overachieving can be a coping mechanism 40:12 — Skills build value, not just credentials 42:09 — “No one is coming” mindset starts early 43:45 — The mother wound shapes all relationships 46:16 — Boundaries and compassion in healing 51:12 — Don't stop trying in a place that's healthy 53:43 — Grace comes after doing your own healing 56:42 — You can’t change your mother, only yourself 57:58 — Connect with Christin Haynes 59:04 — Your story has the power to heal generations Key Takeaways: “You can't have an accurate view of religion when you don't have an accurate view of yourself as a person.” “When you grow up with a mother who’s perceivably depressed… you become a strong Black girl.” “Community is a buffer and a protective factor for depression in Black women.” “You didn’t have the space and the humanity to be low… even if you are low, you gotta put your makeup on, lay your wig, and walk out and brave the world, but on the inside, you’re dying.” “You don’t have to have every credential… you need to learn how to be in a community.” “If you think stacking your plate is going to make you more valuable, instead of stacking your skills, that’s the problem.” “You can’t be a good friend or be in community without understanding your relationship with your mother.” “Black women are going up the rough side of the mountain with no shoes on, holding their world on their back… and the worlds of the women before them.” “You have to know your boundaries and adjust your expectations of what this relationship can be.” “Your boundaries shape how far you go, but compassion is what keeps you open.” “You can’t change your mama, but you can change how you show up.” “Grace and compassion come naturally once you give them to yourself.” About the Guest Christin Haynes is a doctoral candidate in Family Science and Human Development at Montclair State University, with a research focus on the intergenerational passing of Strong Black Woman beliefs and maternal mental health. She holds a BS in Psychology and an MSW from Florida A&M University and has worked closely with vulnerable Black families. Christin is also the host of the Black Family Scholar podcast, where she explores the culture of silence within Black ...
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    1 hr
  • What I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Healing My Mother Wound

    What I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Healing My Mother Wound
    Apr 7 2026
    Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-courseWork with me one-on-one Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. Healing is not a quick process, and it doesn’t follow a fixed timeline. Years of pain, rejection, and misunderstanding cannot be undone in a short period, no matter how much one wishes for it. Instead of rushing toward an endpoint, the journey invites a deeper discovery of self, one that exists beyond fear and past conditioning. In that process, there is a quiet realization that growth happens in small, imperfect steps. Learning to care for personal needs and choosing oneself, even in uncertain moments, becomes evidence that healing is already taking place. Along the way, long-held beliefs begin to shift. The fear of being unlikable slowly gives way to the understanding that being seen does not always lead to rejection. There is also the discovery of capability, finishing what was once abandoned, and recognizing intelligence that was always present but never acknowledged. Time will pass regardless, and that truth brings a sense of urgency to the work. The choice is not about waiting for healing to feel complete, but about continuing the process while life moves forward. Even with its difficulty, the journey offers something irreplaceable: the chance to finally know and accept oneself. In that sense, the process itself is not just necessary, it is meaningful. In this episode, I’m welcoming you back to The Black Mother Wound Podcast and into Season 3 as we begin a new chapter with the Black Effect Podcast Network. I reflect on how this space started as my personal journey and share what ten years of healing my mother wound has taught me, especially that healing takes time and is rooted in getting to know yourself. I opened up about the beliefs I had to unlearn and how creating a safe space within helped me grow. As we step into this season, I’m inviting you to not just listen, but to do the work and choose yourself. “Healing, as hard as it has been, it has been worth it, I would do it all over again.” – Jennifer Arnise Topics Covered: 01:11 — Episode Snippet 01:30 — Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast (Season 3 Opening) 02:17 — Joining the Black Effect Podcast Network 05:44 — 10 Years of healing the mother wound 07:03 — Why healing cannot be rushed 08:22 — The journey is the gift 11:05 — Lesson #1: People will like me if they know me 13:49 — Lesson #2: I can finish things 16:22 — Lesson #3: I am smart 19:04 — Lesson #4: Nothing is wrong with me 21:49 — We are worthy of love and happiness 22:48 — Healing requires new experiences 24:12 — Creating a safe space within yourself 25:28 — Healing is bard, but worth it 27:05 — What to expect in season 3 28:42 — Be an implementer, not just a listener Key Takeaways: “Getting there is not the gift. The journey is the gift because what you get is an opportunity to get to know yourself.” “You can’t undo 20, 30, 40, 60 years of abandonment, of rejection, of wounding in 6 months, in a year.” “If you are getting to know yourself, if you are building a better relationship with yourself, then you are on the right track.” “Do not judge where you are so quickly, give it time to cook.” “It took me learning to accept and like myself for me to realize that it’s safe for people to know me.” “I created a safe space for myself where I wasn’t going to berate myself for not knowing and that made all the difference.” “All the things were always there, I just thought they weren’t valuable.” “The biggest part of healing is new experiences, you have to give your brain new evidence.” “Treat yourself like you are an explorer in a new kingdom, even if you’re in the same place.” “Be who you are, get what you want, have the life that is in your heart.” DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience. www.jenniferarnise.com IG: @ iamjenniferarniseSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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    30 mins
  • Introducing Black Mother Wound

    Introducing Black Mother Wound
    Mar 31 2026

    Black Mother Wound is an intimate and thought‑provoking podcast hosted by Jennifer Arnise, exploring the complex, often unspoken dynamics between Black women and their mothers. Through personal storytelling, cultural reflection, and honest dialogue, Jennifer examines how generational trauma, love, silence, and survival collide inside Black families, and what healing can look like.

    This is a space for truth, compassion, and reckoning, centering voices that have long been dismissed or misunderstood. Black Mother Wound invites listeners to name their pain, question ingrained thoughts, and imagine healthier ways forward.

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    2 mins