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In today's episode - we name the hidden roles that keep our conflicts on repeat and explain why the drama triangle can feel impossible to quit even when it hurts. We share simple ways to step out of victim, rescuer, and persecutor patterns and build self-trust in the moment.
• the drama triangle as a relationship pattern driven by nervous system protection
• the three roles and what they sound like under stress
• how high achievers and helpers get pulled into overgiving and resentment
• intermittent reinforcement and the “payoff” that keeps the cycle going
• why the triangle creates intensity instead of intimacy
• practical role shifts from victim to creator, persecutor to challenger, rescuer to coach
• the interrupting question “What is the most loving thing I can do for myself right now?”

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Show hosted by:

Catia Hernandez Holm, LMFT-A

Supervised by Susan Gonzales, LMFT-S, LPC-S

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