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Say it Sister...

Say it Sister...

By: Lucy Barkas & Karen Heras Kelly
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Summary

Lucy and Karen, two 40-somethings, are always chatting about life, and all that it has to throw at them, and now want to share their raw, honest conversations with you. Their journey of finding their own voices, self-discovery and healing is something many of us can relate to. We all possess a unique power within us, but life’s trials often knock us off course. They have the tools, the courage to speak up and simply say it as it is, so you might feel seen, and understood and gain practical tools and techniques for self-discovery and personal growth during the changes we experience.

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Episodes
  • What Changes When Shame Switches Sides
    May 1 2026

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    Week after week, century after century, stories about sexual violence continue, so we are talking solutions, and why even years of healing does not make it painless. We focus on hope and practical action, from women gathering and speaking out to the steps men can take to stop other men causing harm.

    •Naming fear, anger and shaking as normal trauma responses
    •Why ignoring abuse memories can make us ill over time
    •Finding hope in women validating each other publicly
    •The rise of testimony threads and naming abusers databases
    •Claire’s Law and Sarah’s Law and why convictions are rare
    •Libel threats as a common tactic to silence women
    •Petitions, advocacy groups and writing to your MP
    •Women’s circles and community as a protective antidote to isolation
    •Inner peace practices including prayer, church, nature and quiet
    •EFT tapping, counselling and holistic trauma-informed support
    •Journalling, hypnosis and other ways to rebuild a sense of safety
    •What men can do: call it out, check your mates, build empathy, amplify women
    •How to talk to your partner and when to seek another outlet

    • Rape Crisis England & Wales
      Website: https://rapecrisis.org.uk

    • The Survivors Trust
      Website: https://thesurvivorstrust.org

    • Rape Crisis Scotland
      Website: https://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk

    • Refuge
      Website: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk

    • Women’s Aid
      Website: https://www.womensaid.org.uk

    • End Violence Against Women Coalition
      Website: https://www.endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk

    • Rights of Women
      Website: https://www.rightsofwomen.org.uk

      • Free legal advice on sexual violence, harassment, and domestic abuse
      • Specialist helplines for different legal areas
    • NHS Sexual Assault Referral Centres
      Website: https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-assault-referral-centres

    • DABS Pathfinder
      Website: https://www.dabspathfinder.co.uk

    • GOV.UK support for victims of sexual violence
      Website: https://www.gov.uk

    • Rape Crisis (24/7): 0808 500 2222
    • National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247
    • The Survivors Trust: 0808 801 0818




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    46 mins
  • Man Or Bear And Now It’s Your Husband
    Apr 24 2026

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    We sit with the shock of a widely reported online “r*pe academy” and what it reveals about drugging, consent, and the scale of misogyny online. We share personal stories, name the anger and exhaustion women carry, and get practical about safety, parenting, and what men must do to stop rape culture.

    • reacting to the reporting, the numbers, and why shock matters
    • how drugging and spiking trauma lives in the body and mind
    • why women feel unsafe even at home
    • the link between objectification, entitlement, and online grooming spaces
    • teaching consent, respect, and what healthy attraction looks like
    • parenting and digital boundaries around gaming, p*rn, and VR
    • practical due diligence, trusting instincts, and noticing relationship shifts
    • what men can do, calling out mates, intervening early, involving police

    Just tune in, listen to your instincts.
    You will know when something is safe or not.
    And if you're not sure, treat it as unsafe.


    • RAINN (USA): rainn.org
    • End Violence Against Women Coalition (UK): evaw.org.uk
    • Victim Support (UK): 0808 1689 111
    • The Survivors Trust (UK): thesurvivorstrust.org
    • National Domestic Abuse Helpline (UK): 0808 2000 247

    Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.


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    36 mins
  • The Power Of Awe and searching for daily hope
    Apr 17 2026

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    We talk about awe as a real force that lifts our energy and widens what we believe is possible, especially when winter feels relentless and the news is heavy. We share stories of everyday helpers, then turn that hope into a practical dreaming framework built on micro-choices and honest self-trust.


    • Defining awe and why it changes our perspective
    • Choosing to show up even with pain or fear
    • A civilian act of courage that saves lives
    • Training ourselves to look for the helpers
    • Finding “glimmers” of joy through community kindness
    • Remembering the strangers and mentors who carried us
    • Noticing bitterness as a cue for inner work
    • Releasing anger without projecting it onto others
    • Using micro-choices to move towards a dream
    • Six days of dreaming with rest built in


    Well, we're inviting you to start dreaming. If you're dreaming with us, keep dreaming. We want you to raise your vibration, to reset your energy, and to get clear on your intentions. The message is simple if the world feels dark, switch on the lights. There's no time for stuckness right now. It's a time for you to reconnect for yourselves, for your communities, and for the world you want to live in because you do have a say. Are you ready to join us?


    Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.


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    36 mins
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