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#226: Jillian Reilly is a founder, author and keynote speaker. She explains why so many of us live without intentionality, how to reclaim the power to make your own choices, and what it really means to give yourself permission to live differently.

What you’ll learn

• [02:19] Why permission and choice are not the same thing.
• [03:47] Why we limit our own sense of what’s possible.
• [06:01] Why we give away our power to make decisions.
• [09:28] How external influences shape the choices we make.
• [12:08] The power of giving yourself the permission to say no.
• [14:54] How the work contract has shifted in the twenty-first century.
• [19:35] Why the pressure to be constantly productive is doing us harm.
• [22:40] How people fall into unhealthy work patterns.
• [25:02] Why your job shouldn’t define who you are.
• [29:30] Why sometimes the right choice is to not make change.
• [33:22] The power of intentional self-activated choices.
• [37:43] Why everyone should be intentional and wilful in their actions.
• [41:18] Why focusing on the present is so challenging.
• [44:05] How to balance planning for the future with accepting uncertainty.

Resources mentioned in this episode
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• The Ten Permissions, Jillian Reilly
• The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks

For the show notes for this episode, including a full transcript and links to all the resources mentioned, visit:

https://changeworklife.com/saying-yes-and-saying-no-the-power-of-permission/

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#225: Rob Kalwarowsky is a world class leadership coach and expert in destructive leadership behaviour. He explains the different types of toxic leaders living in your head, how to identify your own destructive thought patterns, and the practical steps you can take to overcome them.

What you’ll learn

• [02:13] The six different destructive leadership types.
• [5:30] How many bosses display destructive leadership traits.
• [6:00] Why understanding destructive leadership types can help you.
• [6:50] Why self-compassion is essential for developing self-awareness.
• [8:25] How to be aware of what’s influencing your thought patterns.
• [9:15] Where negative internal thought patterns originate from.
• [10:55] How negative personality traits can serve a positive purpose.
• [13:04] How chronic stress hijacks our behaviour.
• [14:39] How your inner world shows up in your professional life.
• [17:15] How imposter syndrome can affect your performance at work.
• [20:55] Why you should identify the different characteristics of your personality.
• [22:51] How to identify your negative thought patterns.
• [24:56] How to know if you’re as self-aware as you think.
• [28:13] How to overcome negative thought patterns and behaviours.
• [30:30] Practical steps you can take to improve your stress response.
• [32:38] How to measure self improvement success.
• [33:39] Breathing techniques to lower stress.
• [36:21] How the direct manager influences employee engagement.
• [38:10] How to know if it’s the internal or the external that needs changing.

Resources mentioned in this episode
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• Appetite for Destruction: A Psychometric Examination and Prevalence Estimation of Destructive Leadership in Sweden
• Dr Tasha Eurich
• No Bad Parts, Dr Richard Schwartz
• Taming Your Gremlin, Rick Carson
• Gallup State of the Global Workplace 2025
• Capitalizing on Chaos, Rob Kalwarowsky

For the show notes for this episode, including a full transcript and links to all the resources mentioned, visit:

https://changeworklife.com/the-six-toxic-leaders-in-your-head/

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#222: Ty Humphries is a firefighter, men’s coach and founder of Whole Man. He explains how he reclaimed his identity after years of people-pleasing, the power of men’s groups and why extreme ownership is the key to a better life.

What you’ll learn

• [04:01] Why identity can’t be defined in black and white terms.
• [06:13] How a life crisis can be the catalyst for change.
• [11:10] How to take control of the direction of your life.
• [13:13] How to start discussing challenging concepts with your partner.
• [15:08] The mindset needed for a positive relationship.
• [17:11] What men’s groups are and the benefits they have.
• [19:57] The difference between real masculinity and toxic masculinity.
• [21:15] Why people join men’s groups and how to find them.
• [23:46] How to overcome the negative preconceptions of men's groups.
• [26:44] The different areas of yourself you should invest in.
• [30:20] The universal experience of suffering and how it can be used as a catalyst for change.
• [33:56] The causes of the dark sides of human behaviour.
• [37:09] How childhood trauma affects us.
• [42:08] How to express your fears and vulnerabilities to others.
• [49:42] How to measure your progress on the ongoing journey of self-development.
• [55:45] What people do at men’s groups that cause positive changes within them.
• [59:55] The different superpowers people can build.
• [62:22] The value of vulnerability.
• [65:39] Why people continue engaging in negative behaviours.
• [66:40] How people react to others working on themselves.
• [76:36] How to start your own self development journey.

Resources mentioned in this episode
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• Extreme Ownership, Jocko Willink
• Bulletproof Husband
• Heroic Husbands
• The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho

For the show notes for this episode, including a full transcript and links to all the resources mentioned, visit:

https://changeworklife.com/a-midlife-awakening-rebuilding-from-the-inside-out/

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