What happens when the man who spent years love bombing and manipulating women becomes the victim of the very same tactics?

This week, Wade Belair joins Dr. Kerry for a raw, unflinching conversation about the shocking overlap between closeted men and narcissistic abuse — and what genuine healing actually requires.

Wade grew up the privileged son of an iconic retail brand founder — raised in an elite, hyper-masculine culture where conquest was currency, and vulnerability was weakness. He played the role perfectly for years: closeted, love bombing women, while living a dangerous double life.

Now openly gay and two years out of a narcissistic abuse relationship, Wade speaks candidly about what it looks like when repression mimics narcissism and what real change actually requires.

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🔹 Are you dating a man living a double life — and missing all the signs?

In this members-only bonus, Wade and Dr. Kerry break down exactly what to watch for in a man who may be closeted or on the DL, and why the red flags so often get buried under love bombing.

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• The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
• First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
• Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

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A listener from Australia writes in: "l have been jealous of women who are loved unconditionally because being raised by a mother who cannot or does not love you, fully and completely without condition, entangles every aspect of you until many women are seething with anger, confusion, and hate."

In this episode, Kerry McAvoy, PhD explores why the mother wound - the emotional neglect left by a mother who withheld unconditional love - runs so deep. Whether your mother was narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, or simply unable to love fully, the childhood trauma it creates shapes your identity, your relationships, and your self-worth.

That jealousy you feel toward women with loving mothers? It may actually be grief in disguise.

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• ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry's AI-powered coaching app
• The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
• First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
• Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

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Why are we more afraid of a violent woman than a violent man, even though men commit the vast majority of violent crimes?

This week, forensic and clinical psychologist Anna Motz joins Dr. Kerry to pull back the curtain on one of society's most carefully avoided truths: women are capable of real violence, and we've been trained not to see it.

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🔹 What are the warning signs that a woman is moving toward danger — and why do we keep missing them? In this members-only bonus, Anna and Dr. Kerry break down exactly what to look for and why our instincts fail us.

ANNA MOTZ is a consultant clinical and forensic psychologist with decades of experience working with violent women in prisons, secure units, and child protection settings across the UK. She is the author of If Love Could Kill: The Myths and Truths About Women Who Commit Violence.

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Resources

• ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry's AI-powered coaching app
• The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
• First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
• Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

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