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The Gaslight Effect

How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life

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 In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works, how you can decide which relationships can be saved and which you have to walk away from—and how to gasproof your life so you'll avoid gaslighting relationship.

Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time.

Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back, you wonder if your mother is right and figure that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism.

If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from.

Are you being gaslighted? Check for these telltale signs:

1) Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse?

2) When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world?

3) Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar?

4) Do you have trouble making simple decisions and constantly second guess yourself?

5) Do you frequently make excuses for your partner's behavior to your family and friends?

6) Do you feel hopeless and joyless?


Includes a bonus PDF of appendices from the book. Abuse Dysfunctional Families Dysfunctional Relationships Parenting & Families Personal Development Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Self-Esteem Marriage Inspiring

Critic reviews

Compassionate and honest in equal parts, the Gaslight Effect is like a sturdy, truth-telling friend in difficult times. Robin Stern will show you you’re not alone in your toxic relationship, and she’ll also help you identify your role and how to change–and be a stronger, wiser person as a result.”
—Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out

An essential survival tool. In a clear, comforting, and sophisticated voice, therapist Robin Stern takes her psychologically abused readers on a step-by-step journey that will help them take control of their lives and their destinies.”
—Phyllis Chesler, PhD, author of Woman’s Inhumanity To Woman
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worth a listen, some familiar situations and how to tackle them, would recommend listening if you are struggling in a relationship and cannot figure out exactly why

interesting concept

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Informative but don’t think it really deals with how devastating gaslighting can be. And I am still not quite clear as to what it is exactly.

Did it mention the word abuse at all?

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Amazing book, gives so much insight. A book that I will be recommending to other people close to me, who I know will benefit from this!

Eye opening and life changing!

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I found this book to be particularly interesting and thought provoking. it helped me identify certain behaviours that I would not have noticed before and has definitely given me the tools to recognize unwanted behavioural patterns in others and myself. Well worth a listen

very eye opening

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This is by far the best book on the topic of gaslighting out there. I am surprised it’s not yet available on kindle. Wake up Amazon!
Learning about gaslighting has truly transformed my life. I now recommend this book to every single one of my friends. This should be compulsory reading for counsellors, psychotherapists, clinical psychologists and even psychiatrists. A lot of psychological pain is the result of individuals having to exist in deeply invalidating environments where high levels of gaslighting are regularly dished out. All it takes for anyone to fall victim to gaslighters is self doubt or even simply conscientiousness. I wish I had read this book the year it was published. I would have saved myself a whole load of pain and suffering.

Thoroughly recommended.

Transformative

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